- as a baby were taught to hold our bottle.
- as a toddler to walk
- then to tie our own shoes
- my children
- my job
- my money
- my house
- my car
- my, my, my, my, my
One of the hardest concepts to master in marriage, the two becoming one. So often marriages stumble over this particular bump in the road. Through out life we are taught to be independent.
It has been said that a three fold cord is not easily broken. I believe this with every core of my being. But that doesn't mean that the very endurance of that cord want be tried. Every obstacle that can will come to try the cord of your marriage.
The best way to guard against these test is to do some preventative maintenance.
Make certain your plugged into the right power source. Jesus Christ
The three fold cord is three separate cords bound together. You, Holy Spirit, and Your husband. With him in the center.
Let the word become the foundation buffer that keeps your relationship from over heating, burning out and shortages.
Don't get caught up tangled in other cords that are not going in the same direction as you.
Whatever you do stay plugged in to the Father, in Jesus Name.
As tempting as it may be to get your point across. Stop! Don't do it.
Christmas can be one of those holidays where couples either sink or swim. My earnest desire is to sail through this season without any ripples in the water in other words swim. In order to do this I must change some of the habits of yesteryear. I choose to no longer do the same things while expecting a different results. In order to accomplish this task I must be deliberate in my actions. Choosing to no longer fly on auto pilot. So with the season swiftly approaching. Here's a list of things I am choosing to do different.
1. To tell my husband the things I desire for Christmas.
2. Stay focused on the families needs and not spend over the budget.
3. Continue to bring joy into the home.
4. Pray more.
5. Spend less time complaining. And more time being grateful.
This is by know means an exhausted list. What are some of things that could make your Christmas more bright? While putting a smile on the face of your mate.
Today's norm is for the man to carry the women. In other words to be the head of the household. But what happens when the tide changes. When the roll of the wife becomes the husband and vice versa. Some years back I was faced with this reality. My husband health was hit. It was devastating. I was overwhelmed with the sheer magnitude of hats I had to fill. Every roll my husband had on a daily basis became mine. My to do list never stopped. However my load got a lot heavier in moment. Having to carry such a load gave me a clear prespective on what GOD means when he says the wife is the weaker vessel. It was not that I couldn't do the things I was required to do in that season of my life. I just came to the realization that men were built to carry heavy burdens mentally and physically. Though I was doing a great job physically. I was drained mentally and spirtually. It wasn't until I embraced the truth of GOD's word that says when you are weak I am Strong. Grasping hold to this truth I began to cry out to the Lord. Assuring him I was weak and needed his strenth to make it through those tough trails. The bible tells us to cast our cares upon the Lord for he cares for us. I must admit sometime my superwomen attitude acts as if I have things all under control. And there is exactly where my probelm begins. Control, the Lord has allowed so many situations and circumstances to help me understand He is GOD, Fully in control of every aspect of my life. Once I embrace this truth I find it is much easier to relax and allow GOD to be GOD. Sometimes one of my greatest weapons in Fighting4Marriage is to letting go. Putting GOD in the drivers seat of my life and me taking the back sit. Trusting He knows what He is doing and what is best for me. What lesson have you learned your marriage that you would like to share?
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One of the biggest assets in my marriage is the ability to come to an agreement. Not that we always see things eye to eye. We have learned it is best for us to we come up with a solution that benefits the both of us. I must admit sometimes it is difficult if both of us are not willing to see things from the others perspective.Sometimes it takes stepping into the others shoes to have a clear understanding of how they feel. It is then and only then can we stay on the same path. When we fail to walk in agreement satan tricks us into walking in different directions. It is imperative that as you fight for your marriage you beware of the wiles of the enemy. Here are some reasons he desires to keep us divided, he is aware that
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1. Never forget the reason you came to this place in the first place.
2. The feeling you felt the day you said I do, keep those feelings fresh.
Once upon a time our husband to be ran far and wide to find the best ring for us the bride. He didn't even think of the cost he simply awatied the smile that would arise upon our face (and the special goody bag following the I do). As we stood at the altar and looked into each others eyes we promised to be there through:
1. For better
2. Or worse
4. Or bad
5/ For richer
6/ For poorer
7/ In sickness
8. In health
I know some have decided to write their on vows. Maybe somewhere somehow they hoped to avoid the real commitment that marriage entails. However it seems to me no matter the words you say as you stand at the alter. Secretly hidden behind the I do are those same words etched on the wall we somehow breezed past as we floated on the wings of love down the asile. So with an infux of divorce it goes to show there were some that missed the memo. Marriage truly is what you make it. It is a 24hr job, your first small business, a college degree, a team effort, and one band one sound. And it is only as strong as it's weakest link. But at the end of the day it is truly worth the fight. So put up your dukes and decide that since you were the one who chose to marry be the one who chooses to stay. Fight the good fight of faith.
1. Putting on the whole armour of GOD
2/ Pray for your mate
3. Pray for yourself to become what GOD desires you to be for your spouse
4. Ask for patience you will need for this journey called til death do us part
5. Stand on the promised of GOD
6/ Whatever you do remember you are to grow together not apart.
What ever you do FIGHT 4 Marriage
Hi, my name is DeWanna (pronounced: Da-Wah-nna) Whitted. Thank you for stopping by. 2Hearts1accordministries.com is your source of encouragement, inspiration and motivation in marriage. You will find blogs, resources and events designed especially with YOUR marriage in mind. My mission is to help YOU build a strong marriage able to withstand the test of time.