Recall those days in elementary school when you passed the infamous love notes. Hoping they would never fall into the hands of your teacher, or in some cases the class big mouth. You only wanted it to land in the hands of the one who made your heart go pitter patter. Days when there was no doubt in your mind who you loved. It wasn't every boy in class. It was someone special. One you had your site set on for such a long time. Secretly you talked with him in the bathroom mirror. The club house in the woods became the place that you felt free enough to pretend that he was the Father of your make believe kids. When valentines day came around your parents took you to the store to purchase valentines gifts for all of your classmates, while in your heart you had only one in mind. When you came home unbeknowst to everyone you carefully opened the box looking for the best card that would let him know just how you felt. Patiently you waited for the day to pass out your cards so you could retrieve the ones given to you. On the bus ride home you were so antsy that you could hardly keep your cool. Awaiting the private moment to lock yourself in your room just so you could see if he had chosen a special card for you. Sadly to say twenty some years later you have a rude awakening, now you have kids of your own. And you realize all the cards in the box are the same. Lol. After all your efforts you made in the end it wasn't reciprocated. He never even noticed the difference between your card and the rest of the classes he just wanted the candy. Okay maybe that was my experience. Smile, anyhoo.
Today as I look back over my life I now comprehend why some marriages stay together and some don't. As I started this blog, I shared how I had my sites set on someone special. Though they were others in the class not one had your heart like he did. At and early age you came to the decision that the only one you wanted was him. In actuality you CHOSE to love him. It wasn't until years into my marriage that I took notice of this truth. In order for a marriage to work the two have to make a commitment in their heart and mind to choose to love. If you look around your neighborhood you will always say someone's lawn looks better than yours. But if you were to apply some of the same gardening tips to your flower beds you would be surprised how much your flowers would flourish. So instead of looking around at other yards that look better than yours. Begin to add some fertilizer (the word of GOD), plenty of water (Holy Spirit's guidance), make certain your marriage gets plenty of sunlight (Time spent in prayer asking GOD to teach you how to be a better mate in Jesus name) and if you need a boost add a little plant food not too much you don't want to overdue it (advice from seasoned marriages-wise counsel). Remember marriage is a process so give it plenty of tender loving care. Don't forget in many cases You (nobody forced you to marry) YOU choose your mate. Now when all the chips have fallen it's time for you to Choose to love. Til death do you part.
Fighting 4 Marriage
DeWanna Whitted
Fighting 4 Marriage
DeWanna Whitted
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