My heart aches to see all those who have put down their boxing gloves and choose to no longer fight for their marriage. How could this be? Why is it that we put more in the planning of our weddings than we do to stay married?
Don't get me wrong I do understand more than you know that marriage isn't easy. However I must say that no where in the bible have I found a scripture that said it would be.
Our very vows give us a clear indication that it will not be.
1. For better
2. For worse
3. For richer
4. For poorer
5. Til death do we part
But if that's the case what has changed. If we are immediately given the pros and cons of marriage upfront, then why has the divorced statistics increased.
Look at it this way. Instantly you know your marriage will have some days better than others, somedays worse than others. You will experience sometimes of richness while balancing times of poor. Through it all it is till death do we part.
It wasn't till years into my marriage I saw this truth come alive. When I first got married everything was fine. Suddenly we had some major turbulants that I could have never expected. My husband went from doing well in his health to having some serious things we needed to address in his health. Major! It was at that point that I had experience of the worse. Before that I was clearly in the better. Okay we were there, but what do you do when your world has been turned upside down. This is where I realized the lesson of my life. That anything worth having is worth fighting for.
I couldn't just let lifes obstacles knock me out of the race. I had to put some things into prespective. First off my husband never asked for this lot. He didn't ask to be sick. And just as much as it was him going through some things in his health. It could have been me. If it were not for the grace of GOD.
Don't get me wrong I do understand more than you know that marriage isn't easy. However I must say that no where in the bible have I found a scripture that said it would be.
Our very vows give us a clear indication that it will not be.
1. For better
2. For worse
3. For richer
4. For poorer
5. Til death do we part
But if that's the case what has changed. If we are immediately given the pros and cons of marriage upfront, then why has the divorced statistics increased.
Look at it this way. Instantly you know your marriage will have some days better than others, somedays worse than others. You will experience sometimes of richness while balancing times of poor. Through it all it is till death do we part.
It wasn't till years into my marriage I saw this truth come alive. When I first got married everything was fine. Suddenly we had some major turbulants that I could have never expected. My husband went from doing well in his health to having some serious things we needed to address in his health. Major! It was at that point that I had experience of the worse. Before that I was clearly in the better. Okay we were there, but what do you do when your world has been turned upside down. This is where I realized the lesson of my life. That anything worth having is worth fighting for.
I couldn't just let lifes obstacles knock me out of the race. I had to put some things into prespective. First off my husband never asked for this lot. He didn't ask to be sick. And just as much as it was him going through some things in his health. It could have been me. If it were not for the grace of GOD.
So taking strengh, I realized that I had taking a hit in my marriage. But I had a choice to make. Get knocked out. Or take a different approach.
Fighting for my marriage. I decided this is where I fight. But not physically. Spirtually! I began to pray and pray hard. Even when I had no idea of how to pray. Praying for my husbands recovery. It was imperative for me that I reminded GOD about the amazing husband I had, and how the world needed more men like him. I began to fight harder than I was being hit. It seemed like each blow brought me to my knees. Until I saw change. It wasn't until later that I found a scripture that even explained where it was I found myself. Ephesians 3:20 says Now unto him that is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or even think, according to the power that worketh in us.
Intially the first blow could have knocked us down. When the thoughts arose that I didn't sign up for all of this. But instead of focusing on the negative I took courage. And talked to my Father about it all and through his son Jesus he gave me power. So instead of walking away from the obstacles that come our way. I choose to fight for my marriage. I pray that you do too.
Love you dearly DeWanna Whitted
Intially the first blow could have knocked us down. When the thoughts arose that I didn't sign up for all of this. But instead of focusing on the negative I took courage. And talked to my Father about it all and through his son Jesus he gave me power. So instead of walking away from the obstacles that come our way. I choose to fight for my marriage. I pray that you do too.
Love you dearly DeWanna Whitted
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